Change is hard for us all to accept. Help can be hard to accept. Hook Home Help helpers are used to be the first time that people have had to ask for help

This week one of my jobs was to polish some brass things for a lady who has suddenly become much less mobile than she was. She knows she needs to rest but she also really wants her house to be clean and tidy. I think we have all been here. However old we are, when we are laid low with flu or something that means that we can’t do the things we usually do then we feel frustrated and defeated. Some of us feel down and give up, and others push through and do the things but maybe delay our recovery in the process. It is hard for us all to admit when we are less able than we were. 

These are new clients who are new to accepting help and new to struggling with their health. Each time I go, I try to make sure that they both have enough to drink and we talk about what needs to be done. We all know that polishing is not an essential part of life, but I also knew that it has been getting the lady down that she couldn’t do these things. 

I always check exactly how she wants things done and show her to ask if it has been done as she wanted. I listen to what has happened in the last week since I saw them and try to work out how I can help them both the most in the time allowed. 

As we chatted her husband walked past and said, “There, you see, you’ve perked up since Penny got here!”. Sometimes a bit of company makes everyone feel a bit better. 

Sometimes people are resistant to help and sometimes when I offer tea, the answer is no. This can be just because people find it hard to accept any sort of help. People feel vulnerable when they are not well and not managing as well as they did. I always make some time to listen to how they are and what they are struggling with most. We all feel better when we feel heard. 

I made the tea anyway and topped up the water so she could take her medication. The next time I came into the room, she said, “This is a great cup of tea actually, you are a gem aren’t you?”. 

Change is hard for us all to accept. Help can be hard to accept. Hook Home Help helpers are used to be the first time that people have had to ask for help. We can start going in for an hour a week to help with the basics, and we can increase that when needed. We will go gently and help our clients gently so they feel supported. 

We currently have some availability so contact me if you would like to know more about what we can do to help people 

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